FEMALE Thinking Style / FTS : Female Thinkers, or when behaving in Female Thinking Mode

The Female stereotype thinks in terms of WHY and WHO. The FTS likes to understand the situation so she/he can feel more grounded by understanding the details of WHY the scenario happened and the personalities of WHO were involved. The stabilizing affect of understanding WHY and WHO assists stress relief through grounding and personal connection.

When we are in FTS, mode it is best to remember that someone else may be more interested in fixing and being free of it before getting deeper understanding of the scenario and the players involved. Offer empathy. E.g It sounds like you would feel better if we spent our time fixing this possibly dangerous scenario before getting to the “Why” this situation happened and “WHO” else is involved? If you get a yes, ask, would you be willing to hear my perspective? If you get a yes, respond by: Sharing Your Feelings e.g. : My frustration over why this happened and who is responsible is pretty intense. Your Desire e.g.: if this situation continues, I agree more people could be affected and I’m wondering if we can both consider that we have at least another 15 minutes before any further problems arise, and spending a little more time on finding out why this problem came up and who is behind it would allow us to resolve the issue at the source. Request e.g. : Would you be willing to discuss this for another 15 minutes to get a little more insight on the why and how before we fix it?