Who is a Soulmate?
What does soul mate mean to you?
Many people believe that there is one soul mate- the “One” that each person is destined to be with -a person with both complementary common and opposite qualities that when united, the couple creates a relationship entity that exceeds the sum of each other’s individual contribution. This relationship is both fulfilling and transforming. Each soul grows in the presence of the other and in the face of any challenge, harmony and deeper consciousness is the result.
Defining Soulmates
Many people believe that each soul attracts more than one significant soul mate along their life path. These special synchronistic connected souls are in each other’s life for a reason, a season and/or for eternity. Such kindred souls may or may not be a lifelong partner and the relationship may take various forms- best friend, advisor, teacher, relative or student.
The main difference between these two points of view is that in this second perspective, there may be one or more people during a person’s life path that have a deep impact on one’s soul. For example, Carmen lost her husband Jeremy, through illness. They were deeply bonded and considered each other soulmates. Carmen never imagined she could ever love someone with such depth. Nine years after Jeremy died, she met someone who she today, also considers to be a soul mate.
The word mate :
noun:
1 each of a pair of birds or other animals: a male bird sings to court a mate.
• informal a person’s husband, wife, or other sexual partner.
• informal one of a matched pair: a sock without its mate.
2 [in combination] a fellow member or joint occupant of a specified thing: his tablemates.
• British informal used as a friendly form of address between men or boys:“See you then, mate.”
• British informal a friend or companion: I was with a mate | my best mate, Steve.
3 an assistant or deputy, in particular:• an assistant to a skilled worker: a plumber’s mate.
• a deck officer on a merchant ship subordinate to the master.
See also first mate.
verb:
1 [no object] (of animals or birds) come together for breeding; copulate:successful males may mate with many females.
• [with object] bring (animals or birds) together for breeding.
• join in marriage or sexual partnership: people tend to mate with others in their own social class.
2 connect or be connected mechanically. [with object] a four-cylinder engine mated to a five-speed gearbox.
At Soul Date we encourage you to define, what a soul mate relationship means to you. Most people describe a mate as someone who has a profound influence on their growth. Words like safety, trust, challenge, unique, inspiration, bonding,connection, fun, joy and of course love are usually mentioned.
What we do believe is that relationship is the single most important way to evolve consciousness. The deeper the relationship the deeper the evolution. We also believe that evolution of the soul is the purpose of life and there are many diverse paths to get to this one truth.As an interfaith organization, we respect anyones choice of religious or spiritual path.
Following are some definitions we have provided to start the inquiry of your own meanings for words that we commonly use yet may have different meaning for different people.
Feelings/E-motions
Physical sensations that catalyze our motion through life. E.g. butterflies, shivers, chills, heat, tension, relaxation, dizziness, elation, balanced, centered- words like happy or sad, patient or frustration are terms often used to describe states of being that the body experiences when feeling an emotion. We encourage all participants at Soul Date to look within and explore personally relevant words that uniquely describe the physical sensations of any emotion and the location they show themselves at. In our orientation seminar, we explore how the emotions and feelings that come up in the relationship are sources of energy that evolve our life journey.
Brain
The key organ responsible for interpreting and organizing all human functions. The brain can categorize and label states of being/emotions. E.g. I feel sad when I read the news of war. Modern developments in science are showing that the body’s sensory mechanisms are the first catalysts of awareness. The brain filters and interprets the primary signals of the five senses. For example, when someone shakes our hand (sense of touch), it is the brain that takes a secondary role in interpreting whether we like or dislike this person. Most of the time this is a sub conscious response.
Heart
Centered– A state of being where one naturally and intuitively feels and expresses emotions. ”I Love You”
Mind– The state where the brain recognizes, balances, integrates and coordinates the feelings expressed by heart centered awareness:
“I sense warmth through my whole body when I witness the kindness of co-workers. “
Soul
The innate immaterial essence in every human being that motivates one’s life towards higher consciousness and spirituality through the experiences of relationship with self and other(s). The soul is the immaterial container of both personal and collective awareness/consciousness.
The soul setup on Planet Earth is that the soul which is connected to all body, mind, emotional and physical stimuli, nourishes itself through dualistic experiences.
We appreciate happiness because we have felt sadness. We set up our lives to experience such polar opposite experiences to feed the growth of the soul. AND there are some polar opposite experiences that are too EXTREME to enhance our growth. E.g. extreme anger expressed in violence could weaken or even destroy the soul’s journey in one’s body.
Participants at SOUL DATE are looking to meet people who uniquely mirror the degree of polar behavior that instils complementary growth in each other.
Spirit
The innate immaterial essence of the universe that all beings recognize within themselves. Every human being aspires consciously or subconsciously to connect with and develop their personal expression of spirit……oneness, enlightenment, the attainment of unity with G-D etc.. Experiences of spiritual transcendence seem to unify any polar opposite dualistic experiences and we thus experience a sense a unity.
At Soul Date we encourage participants to honor their individual path of spiritual seeking and expression. There are many models, philosophies or religions that will resonate as a unique path for different people. Participants will ultimately choose to connect with people who reflect a compatible spiritual journey.